First: Klutz moment of the day. I dropped my keys and in an attempt to catch them before they hit the ground, I dropped everything else in my hands. And no, I didn't save the keys either.
Second: I learned something about myself. I hate having people express their disapproval of me. Constructive criticism is always welcome. However, if you are frustrated with a question I ask because I don't understand something or need clarification, and are thus disappointed with my work product, that throws me for a loop. Seriously. I had to delete the email b/c I kept reading it over and over wondering what I did to be so "frustrating". Also, I hate being told that someone is genuinely worried about my level of understanding. Tell me that you are worried that I didn't eat all week, or that I have not slept more than 2 hrs or biting my nails until my fingers bleed could never be a good thing. But please don't tell me that a question I asked makes you worry about me. Though there are stupid questions, if I ask something that you think I should know the answer to, it advances neither of our goals for you to belittle me. An alternative response is "[Answer to question] + I thought the instructions were clear" or something like that. In that case, I have the opportunity to explain why I asked the question (like the fact that it was on the behalf of another, or that I knew the answer but rather than assuming that I was right, getting an authoritative source for my information/beliefs). I can't even think right now I am so dismayed (yup, it's so serious, I'm using "dismay"). I have to get back to studying b/c apparently I am "frustrating" to work with and my level of understanding is "worrying" some folks.
It's finals week, people. I cry for no reason and take things really personally. Best advice: leave me alone for the next few days.
for fear of being attacked for ignoring your advice i'll keep it short and say good luck in your exams.
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